Imagine a moment this week where you feel like you "failed" in some aspect of parenting or life.
Now ask yourself a few questions. First, what went wrong? How could you make a different choice next time? What did you learn from the experience?
Okay. Now, think of 3 good things you did today. Got 'em? (Some days I realize this may be easier/harder than others!) Chances are there are way more than 3, but you got yourself focused on the ONE negative thing and maybe stewed about it all day. What are your 3 positives? Say to yourself, "alright, I did do x, y, z and I am always learning and growing! I love my family and want to be the best mama I can be for them." Take a deep breath. Look at yourself in the mirror and smile. Did you know it's common in yoga classes to smile for a moment? It helps you relax and let go of tension, even if you don't "feel" happy at first. Trust me, smiling will boost your mood. Smiling tells your body and your mind that you are going to be okay!
We are constantly learning, evaluating, reflecting, and growing. Let yourself go through this process without guilt and shame. Be kind and gentle to yourself, just like you would be if you were giving a close friend some advice about how to handle a feeling of failure. Work through your weaknesses and celebrate your strengths.
Any time you need a pick-me-up, do this exercise!